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First off I know I should be thankful that DH still has a job. However he is working nights and I want to scream!! I do sleep better without the snoring but the weekends SUCK!! Trying to be quiet in my own house while he is sleeping makes me CRAZY!! Let alone it's hard to get anything done.

We barely see each other or talk...I am becoming VERY resentful!!!:rolleyes:
 

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Uy yuy yuy, Shel. Can't you just close the door to the bedroom and be on your way? There's no reason you have to be totally quiet, that's a ridiculous request!

DON'T be resentful. That could be the beginning of the end. Tell him you guys NEED to talk and be completely honest with him.

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We have talked. He isn't requesting that we(me and kids) be quiet but if he doesn't get enough sleep...BEAR CITY!!!
 

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I find it very difficult to get used to someone sleeping on a different schedule from me. I remember when I dated/lived with Eric and he had a job at the local casino where he had to work from like 2 am to 11 am (when it wasn't "busy") and I found myself unable to sleep without him around and ended up actually taking a few sick days at work because I just go so tired. Thankfully it was a short term thing (4 days).

I think the key would be to discuss different strategies... is there a way to make the bedroom a little more soundproof? Is there something that helps him sleep? (for me it's listening to an audiobook... in the past I've put on an audiobook on the ipod and fell asleep even though there was other noise going on around me)
 

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Well he has been on 2 different night shifts in the last 2 months. The current one isn't as bad as the first. Heck who knows by next week or next month it could be different yet!!

He falls asleep just fine..he has a fan running so that helps. I think mostly I hate the fact that I want him and I to do stuff on the weekends but I have to wait until late afternoon. Plus I am middle aged and that isn't helping :D

Witchy Woman!!
 

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Plus I am middle aged and that isn't helping :D
No, you're just a female. Age is totally irrelevant. :D

I know what the poor guy's going through. I did rotating shifts for 3 years & trust me, it makes it impossible to sleep properly. I don't know how often I went to work on 2 hours sleep or less. :(

Can he talk to his boss & try & stay on day shift? :confused:
 

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Oh geez, Linds, why'd ya have to go there?! LOL!
 

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When Jason worked nights he wore earplugs if we were home while he needed to sleep.

Jason worked third shift for years. I do know how much it sucks and you do start to resent the way your weekends get shuffled around. But just try to remember that it's even harder on him. Sleeping off a normal schedule really does take a toll on a person's physical and mental health.

See if he'll wear earplugs that way you'll feel more free to move around the house without worrying about waking him up.

Hang in there! =)
 

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Jason works swing shifts. In one week, he'll work a 4 (am) to noon, 7 am to 3 pm, a 4 pm to 11, or a 11 pm to 7 am shift. It's VERY, VERY frustrating trying to adjust to their schedules. We've been doing this for years now, and I wish I could say it gets easier, but I still can't get used to it (he's learned to with sleep at least). It's one reason we're looking forward to Japan (once the guard decides what he can do), because it's a straight day shift! Yay. I understand where you are coming from completely. :(
 

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I think that swing shifts are the absolute worst - it's a ridiculous thing to do to people!!! I have worked shift work as a nurse - my first job they would rotate day/evening or day/night, but 2 months of days and 1 month of the off shift - made it easier to me instead of rotating week to week. I also worked night shift for a year, but I kinda liked it - it was 12 hrs shifts, so I would just come home, go to bed, then have about 4 hours before going to work again. I only worked 3 days a week - not too bad. I could sleep all day, but on my "day off" I would get up around noon, so I didn't miss all day. People with kids didn't appear to sleep much at all! I sympathize with you - I wouldn't like SU working night either - any idea how long this will last? Just try to make the most of the time you have together, and don't get mad at him for it - it's not his fault.
 

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get him the GOOD ear plugs. my friend's husband snoes like a freight train and she wears them. she can't hear ANYTHING with them on.
 

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Can't he go sleep in the garage?
I have mentioned that:D

Patm- My sister works 3-12hr night shift at a hospital and she never seems to get enough sleep! She said 3 days straight about kills her...I couldn't do that and NO way could I work nights!!
 
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