I'm so sorry. I can totally relate. (((((HUGS)))) :'(Heather said:Did/do your children's grandparents take an interest in them? No
Do they ask if they can keep them for a day....or a night just for no reason at all? Never
Do they want to come over and spend time with them? Nope!
What do real grandparents do? I have no idea. I'd like to know as well. *sigh*
My MIL is one of the poorest excuses for a grandparent I've ever seen. She took ZERO interest when I was pregnant. Sent him one small box consisting of a mismatched shirt/shorts a bib and a small toy. After having visited us each summer we lived in CA for the entire summer, she never made it out not once when Nolan was born. They didn't see him until he was a year old, and that was only because DHs company flew us out to Ohio for a week of house hunting. Couple that with the fact that she never takes an interest in seeing his pictures and in fact, said he looked like an "alien" in his 6 week professional photos - and I'd say she's probably not your typical grandparent. In contrast, my BILs out of wedlock daughter has received everything under the sun and she watches her CONSTANTLY so BIL and his on/off again girlfriend can go "party". Nice. My FIL is an awesome grandparent when he is with Nolan, however my MIL runs the show and if she doesn't see Nolan - nobody sees Nolan. It's sad. What makes it even more heartwrenching for me is knowing that my mom would have given anything to be a grandma and would have loved Nolan like no other. And in knowing that, it kind of seems like a slap in the face to me seeing my MIL almost completely disregard her grandson.
My husbands mother told us our kids are disrespectful and rude because they don't say HI as soon as they walk in the door. What they don't realize is that my kids do not know them that well and are a bit on the shy side. But since they are so freakin selfish, they assume it is the kids problem, not theirs. Hence the reason we no longer speak to the witch. I don't have time in my life for her. She still sees the kids every now and again, as we let them go with my SIL. But I won't be surprised when both kids decide they don't want to go because their Nanny is a major *****.Charla said:Shanna and I didn't have doting grandparents either. My mother's mom was and still is a bitter, mean, hateful woman that disliked all of us. She would tell my mom that her kids were spoiled and mouthy.
I was scared to death of her. My dad's mom was basically old and grandma'ed out by the time I came along. I was the youngest of a whole lot of grandkids. My exposure to her was limited. I don't fault her
though. I know she loved us very much. She was just so old by that time.