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Here's the background. My husband has an ex-wife who works for his partner, so we still deal with her on a pretty regular basis. I've talked about her before; calling her erratic would be kind. She's a screamer, basically treats my husband like dirt anytime she feels like it, but has in recent months gone back to using her married name and introducing herself as Mrs. Chris Smith, as if she's still married to my husband. Over the years she has made several comments to me about how she thought that they would have gotten back together if I hadn't come along. She had breast cancer a couple of years ago and has just been told it's returned and she is an emotional mess, understandably, and keeps calling Chris to talk to him about it.
So she is supposed to go to Chicago next week with one of my husband's partners for a big conference. Yesterday the partner had to drop out cause of a family crisis and it is being suggested that my husband go instead.
Although I trust the husband completely and told him that, I also threw a fit the likes of which he has never seen. I put up with a lot when it comes to her to keep peace in the business, but I felt that this was a place where I had to draw a line in the sand. I believe I may have pointed out that there was no freakin way he was going to freakin Chicago with his freakin ex-wife. Only I didn't really say freakin.
Had the ex ever re-married, I would probably feel differently about this, but it all just strikes me as really unseemly and it appears we have reached the point beyond which I will not be pushed. I would also feel differently if he wasn't the boss; if he was an employee and it was part of his job then I would just have to take it.
So what would you do if your spouse announced they might be going off alone for a week with their ex-spouse?
So she is supposed to go to Chicago next week with one of my husband's partners for a big conference. Yesterday the partner had to drop out cause of a family crisis and it is being suggested that my husband go instead.
Although I trust the husband completely and told him that, I also threw a fit the likes of which he has never seen. I put up with a lot when it comes to her to keep peace in the business, but I felt that this was a place where I had to draw a line in the sand. I believe I may have pointed out that there was no freakin way he was going to freakin Chicago with his freakin ex-wife. Only I didn't really say freakin.
Had the ex ever re-married, I would probably feel differently about this, but it all just strikes me as really unseemly and it appears we have reached the point beyond which I will not be pushed. I would also feel differently if he wasn't the boss; if he was an employee and it was part of his job then I would just have to take it.
So what would you do if your spouse announced they might be going off alone for a week with their ex-spouse?