You are a strong person Nance ! You'll be annoying people long after I'm dead and goneUntil Tudor came along (I was 33 at the time, he was 41) I never really had a mindset of "I want to get married." Just never did. Oh, a couple of long term relationships, one of which was fairy tale romantic, one which was just really pleasant and satisfying, and each just faded out in a natural, non-traumatic way.
Having been the fifth of seven children in a very crowded and cross Catholic household, all I ever wanted in life was my own home, my own pets, my own good job to support myself, and to be able to live a quiet life however I saw fit. I had a lot of those single years, and, for the most part, I really enjoyed them. I "did" them well. Now that I've been "single" again for nearly a year I have discovered how well suited I am to this life (style?) and I haven't lost my taste or touch for it. I'm a pretty solitary girl, always have been, amuse myself easily, enjoy the mundacity of daily life, and most importantly, I know when to seek out companionship, male or female, when I feel the need or desire.
This describes my "friend" of 20 years exactly !I have always lived by myself, since I was a sophomore in college...1978. While I have had 'significant" boyfriends, I have never have had and probably never will have a live in. If there is even another person in my house I can not fall asleep. I can hear every toss, turn and breath that they make. I joke with my relatives that if I ever did get married, my husband would have to have his own house, and if he was lucky, there would be a locked door in the tunnel that led between the two houses. After 13 years of living by myself, I can not imagine the guy that could put up with my 'eccentric' behaviors!