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A few months ago we booked a beach house in Long Beach Island NJ for June 6-13, it's our friends house and it's only $500 for the week and we can bring the dogs! Sweet, so excited. It's only an hour and 15 minutes from home, nice close cheap vacation. My husband can run homoe if he needs to for work.
After we booked we mentioned it to our good friends (let's call them Jack and Jill), who have a 8 month old baby and a lab. Well Jack kind of invited themselves along by saying something like "oh cool, maybe we'll come down for a bit too". We were totally fine with it and told him that yeah it sounded like fun. He offered to pay half, $250.
Fast forward to now, almost 3 weeks from the vacation, and I am becoming very anxious. The house has 3 bedrooms but the living space (kitchen and living room) is very small. Wyatt is still not sleeping through the night (has to get up, faithfully, at 4am to pee) and he wants to eat no later than 6am. At 6 months old he's still jumpy and barks a bit when he plays with other dogs. Combining 4 people, 3 labs and an 8 month old baby and this vacation isn't sounded like a vacation to me.
Some info on the other couple. We have vacationed with them in the Caribbean before twice, for 8 days each time, and have had a wonderful time. Jill just spent 9 days in Florida last month with her baby visiting her father.. Tomorrow they are leaving to go to the Caribbean for a week. Jack will have to work the week we rented the house but his job is flexible so he will be able to come down the weekend days and maybe a few weekdays as well. Jill is a stay at home mom so she can be there the whole week. So this is certainly not their only vacation, but it most likely will be for us.
I really want to ask them to not come for the whole week....... without upsetting them or hurting their feelings. I am afraid that it's going to be so chaotic it's not going to be fun. I'm afraid Wyatt's going to wake their baby during the night or during nap time, or vice versa. I think my friend Jill will end up being very frustrated with Wyatt.
Another thing, since we have no kids, we will want to go out to restaurants and bars, they won't be able to. So that's going to leave them home alone with our dogs while we are out.... something else to make me anxious.
I was thinking of sending an email, something along the lines of this:
Hey, I was thinking about the beach. With 4 people, 3 dogs and a mobile baby it's going to be quite hectic in that small house. Wyatt STILL doesn't sleep through the night (has to pee faithfully at 4am) and wants to eat no later than 6am, he's jumpy and barks when he plays and I'm just imagining it not being relaxing and I think this might be our only vacation all year. I'm afraid of Wyatt waking Emily during the night and nap time and bugging the crap out of her while she's awake. To be honest I am envisioning you packing your stuff and going home 1/2 way through the week. LOL
In no way am I asking you not to come at all, we both would love to spend time down there with you all, but I am just worried a bit about all of us in that small house and all the choas for 7 straight days. Maybe would you guys just come for 1/2 the time or something? I'm so sorry and I feel awkward even asking this.
I really think they will not be offended and will understand, but part of me is worried. What do you think?
After we booked we mentioned it to our good friends (let's call them Jack and Jill), who have a 8 month old baby and a lab. Well Jack kind of invited themselves along by saying something like "oh cool, maybe we'll come down for a bit too". We were totally fine with it and told him that yeah it sounded like fun. He offered to pay half, $250.
Fast forward to now, almost 3 weeks from the vacation, and I am becoming very anxious. The house has 3 bedrooms but the living space (kitchen and living room) is very small. Wyatt is still not sleeping through the night (has to get up, faithfully, at 4am to pee) and he wants to eat no later than 6am. At 6 months old he's still jumpy and barks a bit when he plays with other dogs. Combining 4 people, 3 labs and an 8 month old baby and this vacation isn't sounded like a vacation to me.
Some info on the other couple. We have vacationed with them in the Caribbean before twice, for 8 days each time, and have had a wonderful time. Jill just spent 9 days in Florida last month with her baby visiting her father.. Tomorrow they are leaving to go to the Caribbean for a week. Jack will have to work the week we rented the house but his job is flexible so he will be able to come down the weekend days and maybe a few weekdays as well. Jill is a stay at home mom so she can be there the whole week. So this is certainly not their only vacation, but it most likely will be for us.
I really want to ask them to not come for the whole week....... without upsetting them or hurting their feelings. I am afraid that it's going to be so chaotic it's not going to be fun. I'm afraid Wyatt's going to wake their baby during the night or during nap time, or vice versa. I think my friend Jill will end up being very frustrated with Wyatt.
Another thing, since we have no kids, we will want to go out to restaurants and bars, they won't be able to. So that's going to leave them home alone with our dogs while we are out.... something else to make me anxious.
I was thinking of sending an email, something along the lines of this:
Hey, I was thinking about the beach. With 4 people, 3 dogs and a mobile baby it's going to be quite hectic in that small house. Wyatt STILL doesn't sleep through the night (has to pee faithfully at 4am) and wants to eat no later than 6am, he's jumpy and barks when he plays and I'm just imagining it not being relaxing and I think this might be our only vacation all year. I'm afraid of Wyatt waking Emily during the night and nap time and bugging the crap out of her while she's awake. To be honest I am envisioning you packing your stuff and going home 1/2 way through the week. LOL
In no way am I asking you not to come at all, we both would love to spend time down there with you all, but I am just worried a bit about all of us in that small house and all the choas for 7 straight days. Maybe would you guys just come for 1/2 the time or something? I'm so sorry and I feel awkward even asking this.
I really think they will not be offended and will understand, but part of me is worried. What do you think?