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with my husband right now. He is under a lot of stress at work and is not handling it well.
A little backstory: we left NYC when he finally couldn't take the pressure of being a trader anymore. He was disappearing into the spare room shooting things on the internet til 3 a.m. because he couldn't sleep and then crashing through the weekends with no energy to do anything but watch tv. We finally decided it was time for him to switch careers and we moved back to CT.
He started out here doing IT stuff, but worked for a crappy company, but got a job offer from one of their clients who was very impressed with him. A global company. To do a human resources job that he has no experience with, but knew he could handle. I was so proud of him! He's in an upscale professional working environment with well educated coworkers. Very stimulating and perfect for him.
Well, with the economy there have been several cutbacks, and while his job is not in jeopardy, he is now doing the job of 7 people about 3 paygrades of what he is getting. They are asking for a lot of projects to be done simulataneously on top of him normal workload, meetings, seminars and other emergency stuff that comes up. He is seriously stressed. But so is everyone around him. They are putting in a lot of over time that he doesn't want to do. He has no patience for some of the project deadlines that have been assigned to him and is getting very frustrated with his immediate supervisor, who I am sure is also under the gun working directly for one of the demanding vps, for giving him some of her work to do.
So while I don't mind listening to him gripe and vent about his day...I also kind of want to tell him to suck it up. There's a lot of job opportunities in this company if he can just stick it out. They think very highly of him - he just needs to go the extra mile. He always comments on how the parking lot is still half full when he leaves on Fridays...um? Do you think maybe you should stay late too? I also think of my father - who worked 2 jobs almost his entire life and I never saw growing up. It is a little hard for me to feel bad that the guy has to put in an extra hour here and there.
I'm trying...I really am. I know he's overwhelmed. And I guess he's just not the kind of guy who has the stamina to handle all this stress. But I really can't go through what I did with him the last few months we were in NYC. Nor can we afford for him to quit his job.
I dunno...I guess I just needed to vent. I'm so busy picking up all the slack at home with the dogs and the housework I guess I'm a little stressed too...
A little backstory: we left NYC when he finally couldn't take the pressure of being a trader anymore. He was disappearing into the spare room shooting things on the internet til 3 a.m. because he couldn't sleep and then crashing through the weekends with no energy to do anything but watch tv. We finally decided it was time for him to switch careers and we moved back to CT.
He started out here doing IT stuff, but worked for a crappy company, but got a job offer from one of their clients who was very impressed with him. A global company. To do a human resources job that he has no experience with, but knew he could handle. I was so proud of him! He's in an upscale professional working environment with well educated coworkers. Very stimulating and perfect for him.
Well, with the economy there have been several cutbacks, and while his job is not in jeopardy, he is now doing the job of 7 people about 3 paygrades of what he is getting. They are asking for a lot of projects to be done simulataneously on top of him normal workload, meetings, seminars and other emergency stuff that comes up. He is seriously stressed. But so is everyone around him. They are putting in a lot of over time that he doesn't want to do. He has no patience for some of the project deadlines that have been assigned to him and is getting very frustrated with his immediate supervisor, who I am sure is also under the gun working directly for one of the demanding vps, for giving him some of her work to do.
So while I don't mind listening to him gripe and vent about his day...I also kind of want to tell him to suck it up. There's a lot of job opportunities in this company if he can just stick it out. They think very highly of him - he just needs to go the extra mile. He always comments on how the parking lot is still half full when he leaves on Fridays...um? Do you think maybe you should stay late too? I also think of my father - who worked 2 jobs almost his entire life and I never saw growing up. It is a little hard for me to feel bad that the guy has to put in an extra hour here and there.
I'm trying...I really am. I know he's overwhelmed. And I guess he's just not the kind of guy who has the stamina to handle all this stress. But I really can't go through what I did with him the last few months we were in NYC. Nor can we afford for him to quit his job.
I dunno...I guess I just needed to vent. I'm so busy picking up all the slack at home with the dogs and the housework I guess I'm a little stressed too...