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If you're a guy my title warned you so don't go "GAAAH!" you were warned. 
I'm not sure who else to ask. Being a stay at home mom and a young one at that I don't have any friends that are around here anymore, I kind of outgrew my high school friends and haven't met anyone around here since we moved that I've made a friendship bond with. (I need to get out more!) I have a nutter for a mom so I really don't have a 'motherly' figure to go to and I like to consider a lot of you guys my friends and a lot of you are women who have more wisdom that I do in this area so here goes.
My period went whonky after I had Phoenix, who is now almost ten, it finally kind of regulated but never really went back to what it was before, but then I had him at seventeen and have struggled with anorexia since I was twelve (I've done really good with the anorexia for the last two years so I like to say I'm a 'recovering anorexic') so I know both of them play a part in your cycle.
I never ever had cramps until after Phoenix as well, and when they started I'd hit the ground they hurt so bad! My mom's answer to that was "well I had them when I was younger and I had to go to the ER they were so bad, so it's normal, be glad you're not going to the ER." About 18months ago I got the IUD for birthcontrol and the OB/GYN told me that they should help with the cramps.
That thing made my period even MORE whonky (I like that word) like couple days of spotting, nothing for a few days, a week of spotting, few days nothing, then finally about a week to a week and a half of nothing and rinse and repeat. I mentioned it to my regular doctor a few months ago and she told me the IUD does that to a lot of women and it wasn't anything to worry about. It has helped my cramps...some what. I still get them, just only for one or two days a month now. I'm usually stuck on the couch or in bed on those days they just hurt so bloody bad!
In the last two months my period seems to be regulating itself a bit better. I usually have a couple of days of 'heavy' and then about five days or so of just spotting. So yay for that..except before Phoenix I bled for a whole 3 days.
My main problem is that I've noticed a few days before and during my period I turn into a BIT***! I'm not just cranky I bounce around like a yo yo. Sometimes I'm really sad and then I get really mad and I'm really really short tempered. I don't have any energy and then I get mad because I don't have any energy, as I like to always be up and doing something. I'm tired but I can't sleep, and I don't feel like doing anything. I get upset over silly things, I notice my anorexia kicks up during this time too. I get mad at myself for not exercising, but it's not the best time of the month to get into that again because I'm emotional and I'm just physically drained. Then I'm just mad at myself for making excuses.
This is just a huge change in who I am the rest of the time. I'm a very happy go lucky kind of girl. So it's just so radical and really hard to deal with. We've noticed this has been going on for about the last 8 months.
Is this normal? Do you guys deal with this? How should I deal with it? I'm really at a lost here. When it comes to feminine stuff like this I just don't know that much about it!
I'm not sure who else to ask. Being a stay at home mom and a young one at that I don't have any friends that are around here anymore, I kind of outgrew my high school friends and haven't met anyone around here since we moved that I've made a friendship bond with. (I need to get out more!) I have a nutter for a mom so I really don't have a 'motherly' figure to go to and I like to consider a lot of you guys my friends and a lot of you are women who have more wisdom that I do in this area so here goes.
My period went whonky after I had Phoenix, who is now almost ten, it finally kind of regulated but never really went back to what it was before, but then I had him at seventeen and have struggled with anorexia since I was twelve (I've done really good with the anorexia for the last two years so I like to say I'm a 'recovering anorexic') so I know both of them play a part in your cycle.
I never ever had cramps until after Phoenix as well, and when they started I'd hit the ground they hurt so bad! My mom's answer to that was "well I had them when I was younger and I had to go to the ER they were so bad, so it's normal, be glad you're not going to the ER." About 18months ago I got the IUD for birthcontrol and the OB/GYN told me that they should help with the cramps.
That thing made my period even MORE whonky (I like that word) like couple days of spotting, nothing for a few days, a week of spotting, few days nothing, then finally about a week to a week and a half of nothing and rinse and repeat. I mentioned it to my regular doctor a few months ago and she told me the IUD does that to a lot of women and it wasn't anything to worry about. It has helped my cramps...some what. I still get them, just only for one or two days a month now. I'm usually stuck on the couch or in bed on those days they just hurt so bloody bad!
In the last two months my period seems to be regulating itself a bit better. I usually have a couple of days of 'heavy' and then about five days or so of just spotting. So yay for that..except before Phoenix I bled for a whole 3 days.
My main problem is that I've noticed a few days before and during my period I turn into a BIT***! I'm not just cranky I bounce around like a yo yo. Sometimes I'm really sad and then I get really mad and I'm really really short tempered. I don't have any energy and then I get mad because I don't have any energy, as I like to always be up and doing something. I'm tired but I can't sleep, and I don't feel like doing anything. I get upset over silly things, I notice my anorexia kicks up during this time too. I get mad at myself for not exercising, but it's not the best time of the month to get into that again because I'm emotional and I'm just physically drained. Then I'm just mad at myself for making excuses.
This is just a huge change in who I am the rest of the time. I'm a very happy go lucky kind of girl. So it's just so radical and really hard to deal with. We've noticed this has been going on for about the last 8 months.
Is this normal? Do you guys deal with this? How should I deal with it? I'm really at a lost here. When it comes to feminine stuff like this I just don't know that much about it!
