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I have called my therapist to get an appointment, but I would like to know if anyone else has dealt with this.

Since everything with Loren exploded in my face over the past year, I have pushed everyone that cared/cares about me AWAY.

Even with new friendships, once I begin to feel close, I turn my back and close the door on them. (male or female)

WTH is wrong with me?
 

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It's a defense mechanism to keep yourself from being hurt again. I imagine that it will pass with time. You're healing now, so hopefully people will understand.
 

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Even with new friendships, once I begin to feel close, I turn my back and close the door on them. (male or female)
I agree with Cam. I've done that my entire life, I chalk it up to being molested as a child.
 

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Yeh... the hurt thing makes complete sense. You know, even when I found K with his hand in the cookie jar... Ummm... I was relatively indifferent. I think a normal person would have had a different reaction.
 

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Self preservation gets my vote too - you're hurt and dealing with that...not to mention not having time or energy to deal with any needs from new friends. Hugs.
 

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I too think you're protecting yourself, Shanna. I would think it would ease with time and learning to trust people again.
 

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Yeh... the hurt thing makes complete sense. You know, even when I found K with his hand in the cookie jar... Ummm... I was relatively indifferent. I think a normal person would have had a different reaction.
Or relieved... Sometimes when things are shitty for a long time you wait....no hope... the other screws up so you can move on with a concrete reason. I think that makes you normal.
 
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