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Okay. First, I realize that I am the only one who can contol what I put in my mouth. I am the one who chooses to eat the wrong foods, I am the one who causes my weight problems. Today though some of my Wieght Watchers buddies and I were talking about our weight loss journeys and I decided to vent a little about something that has been bothering me. My grandmother, whom I love so very much, has a habit that frustrates me. She buys candies and cookies and treats and hides them in cookie jars and cabinets, and then tells me where she keeps them so that I can go get some. I have asked her not to tell me about them, but she continues to do so any way. Now, I know, I choose to eat the things, that is my problem. But, it is an emotional thing, it would feel so good to know that she is supporting my weight loss journey by just not telling me where the goodies are. I was trying to tell my WW buddies about this and one of them went off a little bit when I started talking telling me "Don't even go there, you know this is all you fault, don't try to brush your obesity off on you grandma" But that isn't what I was trying to do. Does anyone get this? I know I am the one choosing to eat it, but if you know a person is trying to loose weight why tell them where the bad food is? Why not support them and keep the locations of your goodies to yourself? It hurt my feelings a little, being jumped at like this. I am being overly sensitive, I know, but I just wondered if anyone else would feel this way about this?
 

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when i was little i would visit my grandparents and the house they lived in you had to go through the kitchen to get in. as soon as we showed up my grandma would open the fridge and show us all the snacks she had. she just equated love with food. i think grandmas are just like that.
 

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I know how you feel. I don't want to eat the yummy chocolates and cookies or snack on the CheezIts or pretzels that are here in the office...but it comes down to will power. I don't have a lot of it. Especially when I am tired or stressed at the office. I have moved cookie jars and told co-workers to hide their chocolate stash. Because once I know something is there...I want it...and then I obsess...and then I think the only way to stop obsessing is to just have "one piece". And it never is just one piece, is it?

The only thing I can recommend as far as your grandmother is concerned is to always have a healthy alternative on hand for those moments. Find the candy? Toss it and have some Sugar Free candy of the same flavor instead. Tell your grandmother you are doing this. You don't want to waste her $$, but maybe it will get her to stop.

Good luck.
 
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That's the way grandmothers are. Just use your will power and reach for the celery. I made it through the whole holiday season without one cookie, chocolates, eggnog, or wine. If you really want to lose weight you can do it. I actually lost 10 more pounds from Thanksgiving to NewYears. Wasn't fun, but I want my old body back. I look at it as a jail sentence. Strict punishment for me turning myself into a disgusting, obese pig. I have now lost 50 pounds since September 1st, and feel GREAT!
 

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I can't imagine the balls needed to throw out someone else's food! It's their home; their kitchen; if Gram wants to stock chocolate covered ants, who are you to toss them??

I'm sympathetic -- I am -- having endured my own weight journey. But c'mon. It's not Gram's fault: She's stocking HER pantry with HER stuff. The fact that she tells you and then you go eat it is immaterial to me.

Take an apple. Eat it in the car before you go into Gram's. And stick to club soda w/a slice of lime in it.
 

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Posted by: Retriever Mama: I know how you feel. I don't want to eat the yummy chocolates and cookies or snack on the CheezIts or pretzels that are here in the office...but it comes down to will power. I don't have a lot of it. Especially when I am tired or stressed at the office. I have moved cookie jars and told co-workers to hide their chocolate stash. Because once I know something is there...I want it...and then I obsess...and then I think the only way to stop obsessing is to just have "one piece". And it never is just one piece, is it?

The only thing I can recommend as far as your grandmother is concerned is to always have a healthy alternative on hand for those moments. Find the candy? Toss it and have some Sugar Free candy of the same flavor instead. Tell your grandmother you are doing this. You don't want to waste her $$, but maybe it will get her to stop.

Good luck.
Well, thank heavens, at work my entire group is in Weight Watchers so work is never a problem. We always keep WW friendly snacks and drinks, its great. Home is where I run into my problems
Wow. Throw her goodies out? No, I don't think that is the answer, maybe duct tape for my mouth would work though, LOL. I was really just venting, wondering if anyone else was in the same situation. Like I said, I know I am being overly sensative. Just having a hard day and wanting to vent is all. I really shouldn't talk so much.

I think my frustration stems from the fact that she is the one always hounding me to loose weight. I know she doesn't do it on purpose, food is the way she shows love, that is what makes it hard. I know she is just trying to be loving the best way she knows how, which is why I try not to make too big a deal of it at home with her because I don't want to hurt her feelings. Like I said earlier, this is my problem...

That's the way grandmothers are. Just use your will power and reach for the celery. I made it through the whole holiday season without one cookie, chocolates, eggnog, or wine. If you really want to lose weight you can do it. I actually lost 10 more pounds from Thanksgiving to NewYears. Wasn't fun, but I want my old body back. I look at it as a jail sentence. Strict punishment for me turning myself into a disgusting, obese pig. I have now lost 50 pounds since September 1st, and feel GREAT!
That is so awsome!!! Good job!
 

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See the problem with Grannies (and my step-dad!) is that they are trying to tell you they love you as you are, so they are not really encouraging you to eat bad things, they are in their own way trying to say don't beat yourself up too much!

Like I would not have the nerve to change their stash of goodies or expect them to change their way although I battle with my step-dad over portions whenever I go to my mum's!

However, I totally understand where you are coming from and you have my support!!
 

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Tedsta said:
See the problem with Grannies (and my step-dad!) is that they are trying to tell you they love you as you are, so they are not really encouraging you to eat bad things, they are in their own way trying to say don't beat yourself up too much!
Tedsta, I think you said it best. It is not that she is intentionally trying to sabotage your efforts, but that is her way of showing love. I know this cause my grandmother in Ohio does that. We no sooner walk in her house it is "Here have something to eat. Do you want some cookies? etc."

As for your fellow WW jumping on you the way she did, that was uncalled for. :surprise: We've actually talked about the "loving sabotagers" in my WW meetings. I wish there was an easy way to deal with them, but there isn't... at least outside of extreme willpower.
 
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I understand where you're coming from...you're not alone and the other person shouldn't have jumped all over you for how you feel either.
 
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