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Thank you all, for taking a minute to reply :angel: It makes me feel so much better to know that some people out there know about him. Your replies mean a lot to me.
I planted the Forget-Me-Nots today. Simon helped me. It was funny...he was very quiet and respectful. I told him it was for Crash and today was his birthday, and he almost seemed to understand it was a time to be solemn.
They will probably not bloom this year, maybe next. But it felt meaningful to plant them on his birthday.
I will try to take a picture of his place so you can see.
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Crash's birthday would have been tomorrow. He would be thirteen years old.
Since he passed away I have wanted to do something to mark his grave. For the first year it remained unmarked in any way. Grass grew over it, the mound slowly settled and it began to blend into the yard.
We buried him with a Rose of Sharon at his feet. I remember when he died it was blooming, and I would pick flowers from it and lay them atop his grave, the few times I could bear to visit.
Last summer we chose a big boulder to mark the site. It weighs several hundred pounds, and is beautiful shades of brown and gold, just like his coat. We had it delivered and it took four men to haul it uphill to where he rests. It had to be a very big boulder for him. Nothing smaller would do.
Last week we added another stone that lies directly on top of him. It is in similar shades, but smaller and flatter. The larger stone serves as a bench, with the flat stone a place to rest your feet. Together, with a few smaller stones between the two, the rocks look very stately and timeless. It is beginning to look like the grave site I have always wanted for him.
The last thing we added was a dogwood tree. Miraculously, the boys have left it entirely alone. It came into bloom this week - just in time for his birthday.
There is only one more final touch, which I will do tomorrow for his special day. I am going to plant Forget-Me-Nots around the stones. These will bloom in June, which is when he came home to live with us. June 5, 1994, on our first wedding anniversary. The Forget-Me-Nots bloom a beautiful clear blue - the same color we used in our wedding.
I am so happy to have finally completed his grave site, and in time for his birthday. Happy birthday Crash. It's been almost three years since you left us, and it still feels like just yesterday that I looked into your shining eyes and thought how lucky I was to know you.
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Thank you all, for taking a minute to reply :angel: It makes me feel so much better to know that some people out there know about him. Your replies mean a lot to me.
I planted the Forget-Me-Nots today. Simon helped me. It was funny...he was very quiet and respectful. I told him it was for Crash and today was his birthday, and he almost seemed to understand it was a time to be solemn.
They will probably not bloom this year, maybe next. But it felt meaningful to plant them on his birthday.
I will try to take a picture of his place so you can see.
********
Crash's birthday would have been tomorrow. He would be thirteen years old.
Since he passed away I have wanted to do something to mark his grave. For the first year it remained unmarked in any way. Grass grew over it, the mound slowly settled and it began to blend into the yard.
We buried him with a Rose of Sharon at his feet. I remember when he died it was blooming, and I would pick flowers from it and lay them atop his grave, the few times I could bear to visit.
Last summer we chose a big boulder to mark the site. It weighs several hundred pounds, and is beautiful shades of brown and gold, just like his coat. We had it delivered and it took four men to haul it uphill to where he rests. It had to be a very big boulder for him. Nothing smaller would do.
Last week we added another stone that lies directly on top of him. It is in similar shades, but smaller and flatter. The larger stone serves as a bench, with the flat stone a place to rest your feet. Together, with a few smaller stones between the two, the rocks look very stately and timeless. It is beginning to look like the grave site I have always wanted for him.
The last thing we added was a dogwood tree. Miraculously, the boys have left it entirely alone. It came into bloom this week - just in time for his birthday.
There is only one more final touch, which I will do tomorrow for his special day. I am going to plant Forget-Me-Nots around the stones. These will bloom in June, which is when he came home to live with us. June 5, 1994, on our first wedding anniversary. The Forget-Me-Nots bloom a beautiful clear blue - the same color we used in our wedding.
I am so happy to have finally completed his grave site, and in time for his birthday. Happy birthday Crash. It's been almost three years since you left us, and it still feels like just yesterday that I looked into your shining eyes and thought how lucky I was to know you.
