I wrote this article to help those that have lost a loved pet. I know, I'm a sap, but so are you for reading this. We're a sorry bunch or blessed, I don't know which. Here goes:
Iíve always had a love for dogs. When I was a kid I would always pester my Dad for a dog. Dad loved dogs too. In fact, Pop loved all animals.
We also loved to hunt, Dad and I. My dad taught me to respect all life and to never take another life lightly. That meant that you eat what you kill, fish or fowl or furry critter, with the exception of killing varmints that were damaging your other animals or property.
I learned early on that my pets had a shorter life expectancy than me. I donít care who you are, thatís a tough truth to deal with as a youngster and even as an adult.
It doesnít matter how much you love your critter, that will not make them live any longer than what they are supposed to live. Thatís a tough reality.
I describe the realization that you will have to deal with the death of your loved pet as a Sweet Pain. The sweetness comes from the unconditional love that you receive from your critter and the love that you deal back to your buddy. We all know where the pain comes from.
But you know what? Itís worth it.
All you have to know is that itís not your fault that your buddy passes on; they were going to go anyway. You also have to know that when your buddy is/was with you that they lived a privileged life; that you loved them and made their existence on this world a good one. You can be proud of that and happy that you were able to make your friend happy when he/she was with you. That is a GOOD thing. It is a SWEET PAIN.
I know that it hurts to put your friend out of his misery when the time comes. You must know that it is an act of love; nothing else. Do not second-guess yourself as to whether you did it too soon; in your heart you must know that it was the right time. You know that it was time, so do not beat yourself up over the inevitable. You had the courage to do what was right; never denigrate yourself over doing the humane thing for your loved ones, whether human or critter.
You love; therefore you hurt. The greater the love; the greater the hurt. What better testament can there be?
I may be naÔve, but I also believe that if there is a final reward after this life we live, and I do, that our critter buddies will be there to greet and guide us into that life. In my heart I feel this.
I guess my message to you is this: donít let the fear of loss keep you from taking another critter buddy into your home, arms and bed. It is a sweet pain that gives more than it takes.
My Dad taught me this and I believe it. You should too.
Copyright 2006 by Charles Emery
Charles thank you for sharing this. what lovely words. I am having difficulty typing through my tears.
I recently lost my beloved Kassa. I know she will be there to meet Ernie and later me. To know that one day I will be together with two of the most wonderful Labradors I will ever own will make my final days so much easier.
I have loved dogs for a short 5 years and in that time their love has taught me more than I ever learned in University.