I'm looking for foster experience. In a nutshell, owing to some tough times @ home, our Laurie (jollymolly), cookbook publisher extraordinaire ( ), may have to re-home her Molly for up to a year.
I'm considering taking her. But there are concerns on both ends... How would Molly fare? How would Wesley fare?
Can any of you w/knowledge of the ins and outs of fostering care to help us out w/input??
Kelrobin Cleveland Street Denizen, CGC, RN [Parker]
"Dear George: Remember, no man is a failure who has friends. Thanks for the wings. Love, Clarence" -- IAWL Screenplay (1946)
See my reply in the O&E thread.
Jackie, Champ, and Buddy
Well I have taken in a few dogs this year. The first thing is make sure EVERYONE in the family is up for it.
You will need to make extra time in schedule too.
Hoo yeah good point! John and I were talking about this the other day. It seems the formula goes like this:
one dog = work of one dog
two dogs = work of four dogs
three dogs = herd of wildebeests
We've always been one-dog owners though, so we're still adjusting And the extra work is worth it when you see them playing and having fun.
Only after the last tree has been cut down, only after the last river has been poisoned, only after the last fish has been caught, only then will you find that money cannot be eaten. - Cree prophecy
Having failed at actual fostering twice (I kept both) I finally realized you have to have a TOTALLY different mind set when fostering.
In this particular case, Dan, it may be easier for you because you all know Laurie and you know Molly belongs to her. You'll have to look at it as babysitting, or even better, "boarding" as you said. Make sure your girls understand that distinction. I'm sure their heads will get it but hearts do get tangled up in there.
When you are fostering a dog with no known people who loved him or her, it is far too easy to become emotionally attached. But you already know how attached Laurie is to Molly, so that emotional bond may be more easily kept in check.
You'll have to keep Laurie's needs in mind first and then those of Molly. It won't entail donning aloof or cold personas with Molly, but your heads must put Laurie's needs first.
Does this make any sense?
Seamus and Flynn
i just took in my 4th lab and it's really no big deal any more. at wes' and molly's age; it should be easy to walk them together. and dan has a house full of people that can spread the love.
nah, i've let more go than i've kept....so far. i do love seeing and hearing from my old fosters in their new homes....even the ones my ex now has. it's just good to know they are living good lives.
Haha! Sandy. And then there are the strays you just know are going to be better off with you than anyone else. I'm a FAIL on that one, too.
Seamus and Flynn
Dan, I think Nance hit it on the head. I too am a foster failure, so I can't give firsthand advice on a best method or anything. But I agree that knowing the person as well as the dog involved and knowing that it's a stop-gap measure, even if longer-term, it will help. Since it sounds like Wes is socialized well, and Molly is used to a big family already, the adjustment will hopefully go smoothly.
Thanks for doing this. Also, keep me posted about developments... I'd be happy to chip in towards transporation costs if need be, and you know this is a situation that I care about for various reasons.