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    Last Friday we adopted 2 dogs....a black, 11 month old female lab...Jade. And Holly, a 2 1/2 month old chocolate Lab. Holly is adjusting and doing well, potty training can be trying, but we will survive.
    Jade on the other hand...is extremely shy and timid. She will only tolerate my daughter and I, which I find odd because her master, or person who previously had them was a man. We have had her for one week, and she gets so scared at times, she is paralyzed. My husband has tried talking to her, stroking her, and feeding her...but 10 mins. later...she is frightened again.
    We can't take her for walks, or do much with her....she stays in one corner of the house and won't move, and she prefers to be outside, so we have her on a runner but she is hiding most of the time. Only comes out to eat and poop.

    Why would she be do timid and shy? I remember when we got Cash, he was 1 and he was okay here after about a week. Are males and females different?

    Thanks for any input~~~

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    Not sure what the issue is, but theres a few things you can try not to do around her to make her feel less threatened.

    Dont make heavy eye contact with her. Just pat her but look away at somthing else especially if you can see out of the corner of your eye that she is looking into your eyes.

    Also, let the dog come to you instead of going to her. Crouch down to her level, with your back turned to her and call her over and let her sniff your hand etc.

    I wonder how she was introduced to you. Maybe somthing went wrong there....i dunno.

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    My friend had a GSD exactly the same. Luckily you have the other dog who I assume is outgoing? Its supposed to be good for shy/timid dogs to have a confident one around. Try not fussing around her when she is acting like this as it will only re-enforce her shyness. She goes to your daughter because kids dont care do they, they are basically threat-less and ignore them.

    The only way my friend could get ellie to come near her was to sit in the middle of the room with her back to her, no eye contact, no talking. SDhe will eventually come over and sniff you. Part of it could be her settling in but by sounds of it i doubt it,

    I saw Cesar Milan deal with a dog like this...the dog was in a crate..he sat back to him and backed up to the crate door slowly, the dog sniffed his back. He said do not pat on their head as it pushes it further down but stroke her under her chin to make her feel proud. Clicker training when the desired behaviour is also a thought and a confidence builder. I think your going to need a professional trainer also.

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    [color=red] wonder how she was introduced to you. Maybe somthing went wrong there....i dunno./color]
    Thanks for the input. This is how we were introduced. She was in a pen, tied onto a fence. There were 5 other females in there. But she was the one that caught my eye, than my heart. We were there for the chocolate lab baby, but I couldn't leave this one behind. I should have spent more time with her. I had no idea she was going to have this personality. The dog owner put her on a leash and put her in my SUV, she laid on the old towels I had for her and my son sat back there with her. It was a 1 1/2 hour drive for us.



    I will try the suggestions that y'all have, I hope she can come out of her shell, we want to love her, but I don't think she wants to be here. :'(

    Again, thanks!

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    Quote Originally Posted by luvmy3labs
    [color=red] wonder how she was introduced to you. Maybe somthing went wrong there....i dunno./color]
    Thanks for the input. This is how we were introduced. She was in a pen, tied onto a fence. There were 5 other females in there. But she was the one that caught my eye, than my heart. We were there for the chocolate lab baby, but I couldn't leave this one behind. I should have spent more time with her. I had no idea she was going to have this personality. The dog owner put her on a leash and put her in my SUV, she laid on the old towels I had for her and my son sat back there with her. It was a 1 1/2 hour drive for us.



    I will try the suggestions that y'all have, I hope she can come out of her shell, we want to love her, but I don't think she wants to be here. :'(

    Again, thanks!
    Sounds like she is not socialised at all, with people and house enviroment or the outside world.

    Is she an ex-breeding bitch? If so here is some info from a rescue that rehomes ex breeding dogs

    Information on adopting an ex-breeding dog
    Dogs are pack animals, they can adapt really easily to living with people as they will think of themselves as one of the people pack (the family). However, many ex-breeding dogs only know their own kind. They will need time and patience to learn that humans can, and will, interact with them and love them. They only know the surroundings they are familiar with as many have never gone for lead walks or been on picnics or travelled in the car. They may never have seen a child, a cat, a TV or vacuum cleaner or ,in some cases, the inside of a home.

    These dogs are not used to being left on their own (as they usually have K9 company), therefore we ask that they are not to be left for more than 4 hours in a whole day. If they are to be kept as an only dog we ask that they are not left at all until they are completely settled in a proper routine. This is because these dogs know nothing of our world and need you there to help them understand what is expected of them.

    These special dogs need truly special people who have time love and plenty of common sense. If they are to be an only dog they will take longer to come around and be harder work, but it can be done. Also for an only dog, house training may take longer as they can be scared to go in the garden on their own and mark unfamiliar territory. It can go quickly or take months before you see a happy settled in dog.

    IF YOU WANT A READY MADE DOG THIS MAY NOT BE THE PLACE TO LOOK,

    IF YOU WANT THE SATISFACTION OF SEEING A DOG GROW INTO A HAPPY TRUSTING SOUL LOOK NO FURTHER!

    So if you wish to adopt an ex-breeding dog please think long and hard and consider the worst possible cases:
    Many of these dogs are not house-trained.
    Many do not know how to walk on a lead.
    Some have not been socialised. They do not know how to accept love and affection from people and will often run away or hide when you try to give a cuddle or even stroke them.
    Many have never been away from the area they were kept in and often every day things we take for granted will scare them.
    They often do best in a new home with another dog/dogs to take direction from.
    They need to go to a steady home environment that can give them the time they need to adjust and come out of their shell.
    They are generally afraid of loud noises and lots of activity. Unfortunately this usually includes young children.
    New situations, places and strangers may easily scare them.
    Are you ready to give up time and a lot of love for sometimes very slow progress?
    Are all your family members willing and happy to help?
    This is a long term commitment.
    Be ready - your dog may be traumatized with all the changes in it's life.
    What you put in is what you get. Be prepared for the worse and you will be pleasantly surprised!


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    PLEASE NOTE: Ex-breeding dogs are normally best homed with another dog as they have usually never lived in a house before. They are used to living with other dogs and learn faster with another to copy from. This also helps with house training and learning how to walk on a lead. They will make lovely pets but do need a lot of love, time and patience

    Another bit i added

    Also I would definately get a professional bahaviourist in as even loving her could cause more harm than good, your kind of praising her when stroking her for being timid. Poor girl i feel so bad for her, time and patience is all she needs im sure

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    Kaznalf....Thank you for all of that information. She has alot of those characteristics! But, I don't think she was the "dam" did I spell that right? We met the dam and the sire....she was the off spring from these two. We were wanting another dog, and when we read the ad that said, "Free AKC Registered Labs" we decided to go visit the place. We had been going to a SPCA for 2 weeks and could never find "the" dog. We live an hour from the nearest city, we live out in the country....She is gonna be alot of work, I hope the other 2 labs will work with her too.

    Thanks again~

    audrey

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    Quote Originally Posted by luvmy3labs
    Kaznalf....Thank you for all of that information. She has alot of those characteristics! But, I don't think she was the "dam" did I spell that right? We met the dam and the sire....she was the off spring from these two. We were wanting another dog, and when we read the ad that said, "Free AKC Registered Labs" we decided to go visit the place. We had been going to a SPCA for 2 weeks and could never find "the" dog. We live an hour from the nearest city, we live out in the country....She is gonna be alot of work, I hope the other 2 labs will work with her too.

    Thanks again~

    audrey
    Good luck it could be very slow progress but worth it im sure

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    Unfortunately it sounds like you went to, and supported, a puppymill. It's going to take a LOT of time and patience with the older girl, she's probably never been off the previous property. They both need a vet check asap.
    ~Nicole<br />Grand Ledge, MI<br /><br />

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    First - it takes much longer for some rehomed dogs to gain a comfort level in their new home - as much as 6 weeks or longer. You might be expecting a bit much from this clearly poorly socialized shy dog after just a week with her. She needs time and some confidence building. It will help her to have other dogs around.

    Is there any sort of organized dog training around you? You might want to have a trainer check her out.

    I had a sharp shy dog who benefitted from obedience and then agility training - made a HUGE difference in her condfidence level. I also used a gentle leader head halter with her with great success.
    Sharon

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