The rescue came and took Ti back. (rescue called and updated me)

[imported_Shanna]

THIS IS SOOOO HARD.*

Okay, first of all, he was on GREAT behavior.* I was happy about that because I wanted her to see that he's not an all bad dog.* The only thing is, she thought I was just looking to get rid of my dog.* She suggested that I am just a cat person.* I told her that I have found that I am, but that didn't keep me from trying to be a dog person.* I just can't seem to understand dogs the way some people can and I envy those that can.* I want to understand Ti.* She then asked if I had ever had a dog before.* I told her, "Not like this."* She then asked what I meant by that.* I explained that when I was a kid, we had backyard dogs and such.* When I adopted Ti, I adopted a family member.* I wanted him to be with us... a part of us.* I explained that I have worked really hard to make that happen.* *After spending an hour with her, I think she finally understood that I want better for Ti... that we are not a good match, having kids kids in the home.* I can put up with all of his hoopla, but the constant struggle for dominance is making life miserable for us and for him.* She acted as though all that he does is normal and can easily be put up with.* Perhaps she is right and I am not a good dog mommy.* Perhaps her taking him, she will discover the dog that I see?* I don't know.*

She wanted to take him to her house to see how he is with her other dogs.* I agreed to let her, as I feel that would be the best way for her to properly assess him.* I did tell her to PLEASE call me if it's not working out.* I stressed that I am not wanting to get rid of him.* I want him to have a better life, and if there isn't a home that is a good match, then I don't want him to go.* I also told her if they think they have a home, but it doesn't work out for him there, I will be more than willing to go get him.* I don't want anyone to hurt him.* THAT SCARES ME THE MOST.

She asked me if I wanted to try another dog.* I told her no...* I have been through enough with him at this time.*

Really, I am not completely convinced that I am the kind of mommy a dog needs.* I want to snuggle and wuggles with them.* I don't want to make them sleep on the floor because if I let them on the bed, they think they rule the house.

OKAY...* so, please...* you guys start bashing me.* I need it.* It will help take the pain away.* Divert my attention.* I feel like shit.

[Samson]

No point Shanna. I'm afraid you have to suffer as all of us would

Most of the people on this board can sympathise I know that I do

Some other people don't deserve that sympathy but I think that you do

In a way I hope that Ti comes back to you - at least then he would be sure of being looked after

[BudGirl8]

I'm not going to bash you. You did the hard thing and the right thing. You care more about the dog than you do yourself and if the lady at the rescue spends some time with Ti, I'm sure she'll get to see what you saw.

You're a good furmommy. You just need the right furkid.

[imported_Wendy]

Awwwwww.... Shanna I know the position your in and no matter what anyone says it won't help or divert your attention. It is a very hard decision especially when you have a challenging dog that in your heart you don't want to get rid of. I've wrote about Rosie my german shepherd, my heart broke in a million pieces that day. There are situations that warrant needing more help than you can give them. Sorry. ((((((((hugs)))))))

[Jinx]

You are such a total bitch!

You know better. I know this is hard for you. And one hour with Ti on his best behavior won't give her insight to your struggles with him. It's good that she is taking him home. A proper assessment will allow her to see what kind of home he needs. And show her what you've had to deal with as well. He's not a bad dog, but he needs an owner that shows him his proper place. He will be happier when he knows where he fits in.

[theoconbrio]

You want what's best for Ti. That's a good thing, isn't it?

P.S. There is a dog out there for you. You'd probably do great with somebody like Theo. Maybe not right now, and with the kids young, but someday you'll be ready to try again.

[imported_zoezoe]

No bashing to you, girl. You can hear your concern for him in your posts. You are not dumping him to make your own life better; you truely want a good life for him. I know this is hard.......

[imported_Sara]

I think you're great for doing what you know is best for Ti even though it's breaking your heart.* I think that shows real strength of character.

Really, I am not completely convinced that I am the kind of mommy a dog needs.* I want to snuggle and wuggles with them.* I don't want to make them sleep on the floor because if I let them on the bed, they think they rule the house.

I struggle with this too.* Every day.

[BoatDog]

You are doing the best anyone could in a bad situation. Sometimes - not most - but sometimes the rescue people might need to make it your fault because otherwise THEY failed at making a good match.

Hugs Shanna - you'll know what/when it's right to try again!

[Clanceycanuck]

Quit beating yourself up. You're doing what's best for Ti. It's the right thing to do